Trust your kids.

 

Your children have an agenda for what they want to know, learn and do. They will ask you for guidance and help whenever they need it. Give only what they ask for and trust they can do the rest. That way they have maximum space to explore and discover their own approach, and develop their own relationship to the world.

 

 

The sense of trust is very important. If you don’t trust them they will internalize that they are incapable and no good, and become very reliant on outside help rather than using their own judgement.

 

If they have emotional issues and you verbalise that you think the problem will sort itself out, it normally does. Children are very sensitive, and follow adults’ conscious and unconscious assumptions as if carrying out instructions… Focusing on a negative to make it go away just reinforces the unwanted. Let it go and focus on what you would like to happen. This is not new age speak, this actually changes what happens… try it and see.